A & B - a beginning. Two equal parts of a growing and effervescent relationship.
This blog is both a description of and an active participant in our journey through life. Here we document our way to 1,000 dates - the joys, challenges, growing pains - and all the in-betweens.
A: B and I were invited to Casa Loma in celebration of the ICFF closing night gala. It was beautiful; an outdoor event on the back terrace of the castle. Neither B and I have ever been so we were really stoked to check out the inside but I guess we still can’t say we’ve gone to Casa Loma!
The ICFF are gracious hosts - tables of cheese, olives, sundried tomatoes, breads, olive oils, yum… and an open bar! I wish I asked what red they were serving because it was yum!
One of my favourite things about this festival is how supportive they are of the Italian culture. There were so many people attending from Italy and the accents were so charming! Jus tlike listening to B’s dad, I was so fond and nostalgic for my visits to Italy. Firenze was one of my favourite places in the world.
B: Yes that’s a giant roll of cheese. And yes that’s a Ferrari. And YES we are at a castle! What a glorious night.
Maybe there was no Steve Baldwin and it was a bit chilly outside, but sitting by a fountain and just talking about anything with A was pretty sweet. Most of the people at the closing were speaking Italian and I totally felt like an outsider and I kind of liked that.
Making “Good Karma”
Date #318 - Thursday, June 19, 2014
A: We were SO busy helping my friend shoot a short film all day that we didn’t get many pictures. I have a patio blog so that’s where the one on the left came from and the other was taken because I couldn’t see the screen in the bright sunlight so I took a photo and moves to the shade to look at it (can’t move the camera because of continuity!).
I like working on projects like this with B because I get to see B work with sound and I find that interesting. I always learn something new.
B: This was a lot of fun. Making movies is great and I think A and have different styles that compliment each other. I didn’t know too much about A’s friend’s film, but I knew they needed help with sound and that a film with poor sound is simply a poor film.
I got to help on lighting too and talk about camera settings and generally be geeky with A. We then went to a patio and I bugged the servers about switching the TV the moment the World Cup game was over to the Blue Jays game. A’s friend and I talked a lot too, probably more than we ever have before. It was a cool progression in our friendship.
Father’s Day in Whitby
Date #315 - Sunday, June 15, 2014
B: I love my Dad. We used to have a pretty rocky relationship, but now we’re really close. You could say we have always been close, but I fought it hard when I was young. He is very adamant on family time and I admire how much love he has to share.
I’m happy he so willingly and joyfully shares that with A too. I know he was super happy that she came to Whitby to spend the day with us. We all went out on my parents sail boat and then played Ticket to Ride together.
It was a really fun day and at the end my Dad kept going on about how we should do it again. I know A has a different relationship with her Father and I’m happy she can experience this new kind of relationship with my Dad. I read this amazing article she wrote and I learned so much more about her.
I am super grateful to have such a balanced male role-model in my life and I try to tell him that as much as possible.
A: I love B’s dad too. He’s fun and funny and is super creative so it’s neat to see him and B interact. He also has a wicked Irish accent and it makes me nostalgic for those travelling days and inspires me to get out there more. B’s family is very international, actually, and they’re incredibly active and busy people - fitness, music, food… They’re all very cultured and sweet about it.
B’s dad let me sail the boat then crawled to the other side and said he was having a nap. It was just B and I was all, “Aaaaaah!” but it was fine. I didn’t tip the boat!
(B linked to an article that I’ve temporarily put on hold due to some personal roadblocks - but it’ll be back soon!)
A day full of waterfalls!
Date #314 - Saturday, June 14, 2014
B: I’m so happy A and I got to go on this autoshare trip and bring some friends. I heard a lot about the over 100 waterfalls in the Hamilton area (yes, over 100!) and really wanted to go.
When one of our friends brought a waterfall book she has had since childhood, I just knew this trip would be perfect. At our first waterfall, Webster’s Falls, we snuck under the fence and scaled down the very sketchy stairs to the base of the fall (the camera was getting soaked in that pic). I was super happy with everyone’s adventurous spirit. I then read the very romantic poem Na-Go-She-Onong as a way to set the rest of our trip off on the right tone.
We went on to see the second-largest waterfall in Ontario (Niagara is the first…obv) - Tews Falls and a few others. After seeing Punch Bowl Falls we went to the market and found a tone of goodies, including the best butter tart and strawberry-rhubarb pie I’ve ever had. We also found the Detour Café, a café run by one of my favourite coffee roasters.
Before heading home we found my favourite waterfall - Albion Falls. The falls are super accessible and we were able to climb on their multiple layers and take a bunch of photos. Our friends wanted some photos of them kissing under the falls and I’m so happy A and I were able to deliver this to them. I had such a blast hanging with other people and travelling around.
A: This was the perfect day trip and the one that really sealed the deal for me. Autoshare is awesome. The fact that you can take a car for $100 and drive around without a worry - all day - I mean, this was a 12 hour trip and it felt like 2. The other shocking fact was that all these beautiful trails and sights were AN HOUR away from where we live in downtown Toronto. That is nuts! I have a new love for Southern Ontario and all it has to offer. I actually keep resisting liking it so much but I can’t help it! It’s beautiful! And it’s basically our backyard!
Italian Film Festival Opening Gala
Date #313 - Thursday, June 12, 2014
B: The date before A watched (and I somewhat watched) a few films for the ICFF. As a result we were both granted tickets to the Opening Gala. The event was at The Ritz-Carlton and super swanky.
A told me there was a lot of food and even espresso, so even though I was volunteering at the Provincial elections all day, I went. I ran into a Director friend of mine and met some other amazing people, including Stephen Baldwin. A said it was a dream to meet him and so I made sure we got a pic together. He was hilarious and super nice.
A: I’ve been binge watching 30 Rock and I know Alec is not Stephen but I have a precarious way of “bumping” (nay, breathing the same air) as Stephen Baldwin/any Baldwins. The first time I went to Cannes Film Fest I sat beside Will and Stephen and their families and eavesdropped their convo (I know - rotten of me!) but I really loved it. They were so family-oriented and seemingly close that I thought it was neat. Anyway, meeting Stephen was nice. Having him laugh at my joke was awesome, too. I made some comparison of New York and Toronto - it wouldn’t be funny if I told you here - but.. Oh yeah.. The most important part of this night was the lemon meringue tarts. I think I ate 15 of them. To. Die. For.
Date #311- Tuesday, June 10, 2014
A: Scott Harris who directed and starred in Being Ginger (pictured above) made this totally heartwarming film about trying to find love in Scotland/in general while being a red head. I should preface with a fact and a memory. The fact: 2% of the world’s population is red-headed, and of that 2%, 98% live in Ireland or Scotland. The memory: when I was in Scotland, I got heckled to the nines by random passerbys in Scottish accents, most of the words I didn’t understand (I’m bad at accents) unless it included “ginga!” That’s how I knew it was directed at me. So when Harris goes to school in Edinburgh (the same city I went to), I could totally sympathize with people telling him they’d never date gingers.
Despite him openly being picky and superficial, he comes around (in the doc) and the film was actually cute. A good first feature. The Bloor also let all gingers in for free which was awesome…. Though B and I used to work there so we’re usually granted access to un-busy shows (The Bloor is awesome…!).
B: It was really great watching this film. I knew the screening was important to A, so I made sure to show up. I didn’t know things were so bad in Scotland and I still don’t understand why people saying comments like that is funny.
I was really impressed with Scott’s honesty and vulnerability on camera, especially considering that he directed the film. The movie was really about being comfortable with yourself and has a very universal message.
Painting in Rouge Park
Date #309 - Monday, June 9, 2014
A: This day was amazing. I can’t believe Rouge Park is a mere 30 minutes from where I live - which is downtown Toronto. This park is incredible and B and I had such a good time planting ourselves along a creek and painting to ourselves. I could have stayed there all day. Unfortunately we only had a couple hours given the time constraints on our AutoShare trips, but I’m so glad we did this.
The first time we tried to do this we got in a fight and I just cancelled the car reservation. I couldn’t stop thinking about that when we were on our way. Sometimes I think about what could go wrong so much that I actually make it go wrong. I’m not sure if that’s an accident or subconsciously purposeful although I’d really like to think that I want our trips and activities to go well. I sometimes question my own thoughts or decisions; like they don’t always align with my end goal. Am I nuts?
In any case, B is wholly receptive of this, sometimes too often. It’s a strange dynamic that I’ve found myself in but I love it and him for loving me. I don’t question that.
B: Ohhhhh, now I get why I felt all of this tension. I mean, there is usually tension for me when travelling (I think some other people may feel a similar way). I love when I read A’s comments and I learn something new about our time together. It’s interesting how in any given moment you may be feeling something intensely, but are unable to articulate that.
The paining was incredible and I also wish we could have stayed longer. A is much more organized than I am, so I was having a bit of a difficult time painting. I do abstract work to music, so there are a lot of variables. I was even happy to just sit by the creek and take pictures of A. She was so still while painting. I was all a fluster.
We were so excited by the idea of making art in nature we filmed this short video for CBC’s #OwnSummer contest.
Field Trip Day 2
Date #308 - Sunday, June 8, 2014
A: Field Trip day 2!! This festival is amazing - the music, the venue, the people. This year had a great deal more activities too, from photo booths, wine tasting,a hoola-hoop park, giant ping pong, a day camp for kids, an art exhibit… Unfortunately it was a tad rainy but nothing like TURF last year where it poured on the Sunday and only the strong-willed and very wet stayed.
And I must say that BADBADNOTGOOD were incredible. They really impressed me and their audience reception was awesome. I mean, instrumental jazz-infused hip-hop covers. COME ON. AMAZING.
B: It’s funny how a bit of rain can put a damper on things. I try not to let the weather affect me because, well, I can’t affect the weather. I do have to say that I was pretty sad when the coffee cart ran out of coffee.
The day on a whole was incredible. I haven’t seen Bad Bad Not Good in awhile and they were totally incredible. They’ve grown so much as a band an it is a real treat to see and hear them. Do Make Say Think were also incredible. I love that band and they completely move me in so many ways.
We hung with friends and ran in to more people. The night ended perfectly with Broken Social Scene (a band I’ve loved since 2003). Listening to them with A I reflected on how I and everyone are such different people (even the band). Where I’ve been and where I’m going.
Figment FUNdraiser Art Party
Date #306 - Saturday, June 7, 2014
A: We got to be a part of this epic fundraiser for Figment Toronto happening in July. Our project Disposable was well-received thanks to the awesome attendees and despite our totally lethargic and sleepy vibe. Spending the day in the sun and then the night running an installation was exhilarating and…. blurry.
B: I can’t believe that we did both Field Trip and this installation in one day - especially with me still healing from a car accident! We actually set up before going to Field Trip and we did it so quick. A and I were so efficient. I love when we work together and we operate like a well oiled machine. One big challenge is documenting all of the cups we collect, but A and I just devised a system without really discussing much and went to it.
The people at Figment are amazing and the whole event was incredible. I’m really sad that we may not be able to attend the actual festival on July 26-27.
Field Trip Day 1
Date #305 - Saturday, June 7, 2014
A: Field Trip is an annual outdoor festival down at Fort York. It was our second year in attendence and the festival is so much bigger and busier than last year! Not only is the music fantastic - a lot of great local bands and always bands that I’d heard of and never heard of who put on incredible shows.
This year Kevin Drew played. A few months ago on Date #161, B and I were in his music video (part 2 here) which was an odd and inviting experience and it was cool to see him perform live.
Most impressively I think was the activities and gallery Field Trip had set up. It was wholly local and participatory - you could even get your hair done - and the food was expansive and yummy. I love going to these events with B, especially since he runs into so many people that I’ve heard about and can usually put faces to names in the span of two days. Everyone was really nice. I feel lucky to know someone so active and who people respond positively to.
B: Field Trip started last year as a 10th anniversary celebration of my favourite label, Arts & Crafts. Unfortunately I was touring the country with CBC and I had to miss the experience.
This year I got to go and it was amazing. The whole thing felt like a family picnic for all of Toronto. From the local vendors, to jumping castles, and an entire hoola-hooping section, everything was great and relaxing. It felt so good to let go for a few moments and relax. I couldn’t stand long because of my leg and the accident, but I could sit and listen to some amazing music.
Seeing Kevin play, especially with A, was so much fun and I’m happy we got to share that.